Creating a parenting plan is one of the most crucial tasks for divorcing parents. In it, you will set out how to divide time with the children once you split.
In most cases, you look to create a plan where you work together to raise the kids. Yet, working together might be something you and your soon-to-be ex can never imagine achieving.
In that case, it may be better to agree to disagree and let each other do things their way when it’s their time to be with the children. It’s known as parallel parenting.
There are limits
This method does not mean you can never question your spouse or ask a court to intervene. The children’s safety must always come first. It’s more about reducing the opportunity for problems over minor issues. When the kids are with you, you set the rules. When they are with the other parent, they set the rules. You can do this over things such as curfew times, dress codes, attending parties and so on.
You also minimize how you will communicate
If you know that a quick phone call about a minor matter could easily turn into a full-blown argument, then agree not to phone each other. Consider restricting communication to certain times of day and certain methods, such as emails or via a parenting app.
The overarching idea is to minimize the chance of conflict because conflict is bad for your children and you. Parallel parenting is also a good option if the other parent is abusive or controlling toward you. Getting legal help when you divorce can help you find a custody solution that works for your situation.